There is no good or bad without us, there is only perception. There is the event itself and the story we tell ourselves about what it means.
That’s a thought that changes everything, doesn’t it?
An employee in your company makes a careless mistake that costs you business. This can be exactly what you spend so much time and effort trying to avoid. Or, with with sift in perception, it can be exactly what you were looking for–the chance to pierce through defenses and teach a lesson that can be learned only by experience. A mistake becomes training.
Again, the event is the same: Someone messed up. But the evaluation and the outcome are different. With one approach you too advantage; with the other you succumbed to anger or fear.
Just because your mind tells you that something is awful or evil or unplanned or otherwise negative doesn’t mean you have to agree. Just because other people say that something is hopeless or crazy or broken to pieces doesn’t mean it is. We decide what story to tell ourselves. Or whether we will tell one at all.
* Source: The Obstacle Is the Way by Ryan Holiday