The drive for change stems not only from our biological call to grow and learn but also from our conscious and continual desire for newness and excitement.
You can gauge your chances of living your dream life from today forward by the answer to this simple question: Do I both welcome and cause change? If the answer is yes, you can smoothly navigate the flow of life and reach your desired end. If the answer is no, you will always feel tossed about and terrified by a turbulent stream of chance, and you will live life grasping at any certain shore that appears before you.
Activator #1: Make Change About the Gains, Not the Losses
Changing the way you think of change may be the most powerful mind-set shift you will ever make in your life. But we can’t just stop at learning how to turn negatives into positives. At some point, to master your own fate, you actually have to start seeing change as pleasurable in itself, as something that brings in new learning and growth no matter whether it’s self-initiated or not.
Activator #2: Get Clarity, Think Big, and Be Bold
You want to change your life? Be bold once again. Find your moon. Chase something so big and exciting it’s unimaginable to you and those around you. Be brave enough to take action, test things out, fail, get up again, fail again, get embarrassed for trying, fail some more, get up again and smile, and keep moving–this is the stuff of courage, and the only approach to change that will fuel your charge and help your life truly lift off.
Activator #3: Make Real Choices
The idea of “This-That Rule Tool” is that you should create statements about things you want (this) and about things you don’t want (that), so that you are both clear and focused on your journey to change. This is about you making real choices by having you make these statements:
- I want this, not that.
- Do more of this, no more of that.
- When this happens, do that.
- Always choose this, not that.
- Do this now, then that.
Charge Points
1. A major change I’ve been holding back from making in my life because of an expectation of loss, process, or outcome pain is…
2. A clear and bold new change I could make in my life would be to…
3. The this-that rules I can apply to this clear and bold new change would be…
* Source: The Charge by Brendon Burchard