I believe there’s a huge difference in the way successful people and unsuccessful people think, and I believe that success itself is not some big mystery that people haven’t figured out before.
Success has been figured out and we all know it’s a mindset game. Most of success is just about how we use our psychology.
I think there’s a difference between successful and unsuccessful people in the way they particularly think about approaching something new. I think unsuccessful people, when they have a big dream and start thinking about what’s going to be required to accomplish that dream, they get very limiting in their beliefs about themselves and what’s possible.
Specifically, they say three types of things:
- I don’t know how to do that. So they stop.
- I don’t have those things. So they stop.
- I am not like those people. So they stop.
But successful people have a different way.
Whereas, successful people say well I want to do that but I don’t know how to do that. And instead of stopping they say, then my job is to go learn that. They take their current limitation and put it on their agenda as a job to do, as a thing to figure out and make happen. Instead of saying, I don’t have that. They say then my job is to go build that. Or, I’m not like that then they say my job is to go become more of that, become that person who could accomplish those things.
We have to get to the point of maturity in our lives where we say okay, two things are going to change my life. Something new is going to come into my life and make me lucky and blessed. Maybe I can’t count on that forever, maybe now instead, I have to consciously design my life and say okay, now if I want to change and want my dream, then something new has to come from me. I’m going to become a better person. I’m going to become a person who is more optimistic, more confident and more driven, not because I am that now, but because we can grow.
The next time you’re thinking about a big dream, don’t think about the things of, I don’t know how to do that and stop. Think, I don’t know how and then set it up on your calendar to go learn those things. I don’t have that and then set it up to build that. I’m not like that and then set it up step-by-step to develop the skill sets and competencies so you can become that and ultimately achieve your dream.
* Source: Brendon Burchard – How Successful People Think