Where are you in your relationships right now? Are you happy? Unhappy? Are you looking for someone? Have you been with someone for along time?
Wherever you are, here’s how to create greater love, connection and joy in your relationships:
1. Practice Positive Projection
Assume the best about your partner and project positive traits and ideas onto them. If you’ve been in a relationship a long time you may be tempted to think, “No, you don’t understand about MY partner…” But instead of going into old patterns, beliefs, hurts, and pains from the past — assume the other person is there with you, for you, and in love with you. Acknowledge reality if they’ve been hurting you.. but also, if you want to continue and grow this relationship, learn to GIVE your partner more credit, more patience, more honoring. Do this, and instead of tearing your relationship apart, you will be bringing it closer together.
2. Learn To Listen Longer
The essence of being a better listener is to listen longer – and this is what deepens relationships. Don’t try to fix them. Don’t try to stop them. Don’t interrupt them. Allow the other person to express themselves. Be patient and listen longer. Take the 20 minute challenge: Let your partner talk to you when they come home for 20 minutes of venting or sharing or complaining… just stand there and weather the storm…just be centered and listen. Give your partner 20 minutes of listening and you’ll see your relationship bloom.
3. Escape Together
Get away with your partner and go somewhere for 2-7 days every 90 days. You can go anywhere, but every 90 days schedule it and disappear together. Everybody CAN do this with the person they love. We get to choose what we do with our time, so reclaim your life agenda and escape together. If your relationship is important to you – prioritize it!
4. Stay In Your Job In The Relationship
What is your job in the relationship? To LOVE! It’s so easy to forget this. Choose love over your past pains, hurts and fears. When you do that job, when you bring love, joy, acceptance, vibrancy, sensuality and compassion to your relationship, it gets easier and more positive.
Turn your intention to be more geared towards love and positivity in your relationship. Surprise them. Care for them. Add love. Add vibrancy. Add sensuality. Deliver more love to your partner and the world, and you might start to experience The Charged Life!
* Source: Brendon Burchard – Relationship Advice