An Easy Way to Become a Good Conversationalist

Six Ways to Make People Like You – Principle 4

If you aspire to be a good conversationalist, be an attentive listener. To be interesting, be interested. Ask questions that other persons will enjoy answering. Encourage them to talk about themselves and their accomplishments.

Remember that the people you are talking to are a hundred times more interested in themselves and their wants and problems than they are in you and your problems. A person’s toothache means more to that person than a famine in China which kills a million people. A boil on one’s neck interests one more than forty earthquakes in Africa. Think of that the next time you start a conversation.

Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

* Source: How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie