When we resonate with oneness, lying becomes anathema to us because dishonesty creates distance and disconnection. Honest communication comes naturally to us when we recognize that we’re inherently connected. Lying to others is no different from lying to ourselves.
Imagine what would happen if the cells of your body started lying to each other—or merely withholding the truth. Suppose some of your white blood cells signal that everything is okay, but in reality they’re losing ground to a spreading infection. Perhaps they justify it by claiming they didn’t want to worry anyone. Do such actions serve the greater good of the body?
In your communication with others, strive to be direct and forthright. Don’t allow yourself to succumb to lies and deceit. Hold yourself and others to the standard of truth.
Is brutal honesty always the best policy? Genuine honesty is truth tempered with love. Using truth as a weapon is not a loving act, but shedding light on an otherwise dark situation is certainly in our best interests.
Even when it seems painful and embarrassing to tell the truth, you do more damage by holding back. There’s no need to wear a public mask over your private self. In order to truly experience unconditional love, you must make yourself naked to the world.
On my (Steve Pavlina) website, I’ve publicly shared the most difficult and shameful parts of my past, such as the time I was a kleptomaniac and was compelled to steal almost every day. It was certainly cathartic for me to share such stories, but I didn’t know if they would matter much to others. To my surprise, many people told me that those stories had a deep and lasting impact on them. They saw their own painful past in my stories, and this helped them heal from similar self-inflicted wounds. By sharing my own sorrow honestly, I actually helped create joy for others, which ultimately enabled me to find the joy behind my own sorrow. When we communicate from oneness, we invite a previously unknown perfection into our lives.
* Source: Personal Development for Smart People by Steve Pavlina