We all have bad days. But why do some people seem engaged and happy more often? What’s the secret to having great mojo?
1. Let Go of the Past
People with great mojo are free from the past. When they are with you, they are right there with you, vital and aware in the present moment. Let’s learn from them. Stop giving old stories so much mindshare. Give yourself the gift of freedom by letting go of old hurts and paying more attention to what is in front of you, taking in the sights and relationships with a new eye of awareness. The world has changed. People have changed. You have changed. So look at life anew again and you’ll find greater connection.
Stress seems to be ruining people. But most stress is made up in our own mind; thus it can be controlled and minimized.
How to better handle stress and become more peaceful, thoughtful and joyous:
1. Decide Not To Be Stress Case
Are you allowing too much stress into your life? Keyword: Allowing. Most stress is not real and therefore you can make the intentional decision to not be as stressed anymore. In fact, most stress comes from one of two things: A false time crunch or making things more important than they really are.
As the world threatens us at every turn to conform, to become mindless, to act as something we are not, like the caricatures of greed and indolence on television, we must grasp tightly the value of authenticity. We must demand of ourselves that we act from our own truth and fully express who we are and who we wish to be. Keep these points in mind:
1. Be Authentic, Not Abusive
Some people use “authenticity” as an excuse to be socially abusive. They say something rude or demeaning to others and then justify it with a flippant, “Well, I was just being real and honest.” No, you were being rude and oblivious. In each of our hearts there is an authentic desire to speak our mind but also care for other people. Being discourteous flies in the face of the divine drive for connection. Not all your interpretations of others – and your opinions are interpretations, not truths – must be spoken. The good news is you can always be who you are, authentically, without discounting others. You can be supportive, kind, inspiring, compassionate, and empathetic to people and still be genuine about your impressions, opinions, and ideas when you are genuinely asked for them.
We are too often hurried, stressed, distracted, overwhelmed, and bombarded from every angle. We are fighting the good fight, yet with so much going on life can begin to feel unfelt.
How do we keep from feeling disconnected from ourselves, from this moment, from other people?
Here are 3 simple ways to slow time and experience the meaning, magic and beauty of life:
1. Heighten Your Senses
When you are being more aware and present to the moment, it can feel like time s-l-o-w-s down. Do you remember times when moments seemed to slow down? That first kiss. Seeing your child graduate. An incredible meal or celebration that seemed to last forever.
How does our mind work? Here’s four insights that can improve your life:
1. Information
Your mind consumes information from the environment and circumstance you are in and it reacts to it. So what comes in matters. If you’re around negative people, your mind wants to mirror that negativity. If you’re around something inspiring, your mind mirrors that too. So be cautious about having negative information and people in your life because they shape how you think, feel, behave – your overall psychology. And be diligent about consuming positive, intelligent, and instructive information so you strengthen a healthy, informed, positive mind.
We can experience more energy, engagement and enthusiasm in life when we tap into the power of novelty and challenge. Here’s how to do it:
Make Novelty Meaningful
When something is new to us, it feels fresh and activates our brain to pay attention and often feel rewarded. The challenge in the modern era is that this can backfire – all the new stuff we see is not rewarding but often distraction. It feels good to browse, but too much browsing destroys our ability to focus on meaningful things and have real progress in life.
Our focus drives everything in our lives. It almost single-handedly determines whether or not we’ll experience a high quality of life and accomplish things that are meaningful to us.
Here are three counter-intuitive ways to stay focused:
1. Make Fewer Decisions
The more decisions we make, the more fatigued our brain becomes and the less effective we are over the long-term. So, first, stop browsing so much! Mindlessly browsing consumes incredible amounts of brainpower; every new link and every new piece of information to pay attention to eats up your mental energy and reserves. It costs you not only your focus, but your willpower and future focal power as well. If you’re looking for something, search for ONE thing, find it and then stop. Limit your browsing and get back your brain.
When tragedy strikes or life knocks you down, how do you cope? What can we do to face life’s most difficult moments with grace? Here’s four ideas:
1. Don’t Hide or Fall into Silence Thinking You Are Alone
When something bad happens, we tend to close off and not to talk to anyone because, ”they don’t understand me, ” or “they haven’t been through this.” But, as harsh as it might sound when you are struggling, the reality is that nothing you are going through right now is unique… With seven billion people on the planet, and thousands of years of recorded history, please trust that someone has been through your circumstances. One of the greatest ways to cope is to realize you are not alone and to get social support. Ask to talk to someone. Call a friend. Go to a support group. You might be surprised to learn how many people care, how many have been through what you’ve been through, how many can help and provide perspective.
