Where are you in your relationships right now? Are you happy? Unhappy? Are you looking for someone? Have you been with someone for along time?
Wherever you are, here’s how to create greater love, connection and joy in your relationships:
1. Practice Positive Projection
Assume the best about your partner and project positive traits and ideas onto them. If you’ve been in a relationship a long time you may be tempted to think, “No, you don’t understand about MY partner…” But instead of going into old patterns, beliefs, hurts, and pains from the past — assume the other person is there with you, for you, and in love with you. Acknowledge reality if they’ve been hurting you.. but also, if you want to continue and grow this relationship, learn to GIVE your partner more credit, more patience, more honoring. Do this, and instead of tearing your relationship apart, you will be bringing it closer together.
If you handle your money in the right way, you can have more, give more, and enjoy your life more.
Here’s what you can do to start taking control of your money now:
1. Revisit Your Story about Money
Where we come from and what we hear about money unconsciously shapes our lives. If you think rich people are negative or that having money is bad, you won’t attain wealth because you don’t want to be negative or bad. If wealth is something that brings you more happiness, joy, and service, you’ll want to make more of it. So, first, redefine what wealth means to YOU!
How do you keep an optimistic and realistic understanding of what’s out there when there are some people around you who just seem like they’re always pushing you down? Or when someone who’s broken your heart or somebody who walked away from you at an important time?
Here’s what you can do:
1. Don’t Play the Victim Game
We often feel that people can’t understand us, so we start separating ourselves from them. But there’s seven billion people on the planet, and thousands of years of human history. You are not alone, nor are you going through something that no one can understand. It’s easier to believe in people again when you realize that people CAN understand you.
Step one is to not accept reality as it’s been presented to you by the media, by the people, by your negative impulses, or by your own fears.
Reality is not a fixed thing for any of us. Your reality is not fixed. You can change your perception of your reality any time you choose to. That is what gives us an extraordinary amount of personal power in life.
If your view and your perspective of reality is not supportive, is not positive, is not charging you with energy and joy and zest each day, it is time to change what you are paying attention to. It is time to change your focal area. It is time to change your very definition of what reality is, what your life is, what your future will be. It is time to redefine your reality if it’s not supporting you.
People aren’t afraid of starting a dream. They’re afraid of change. Here’s how to get real with ourselves and begin our greatest dreams with boldness:
1. Be Honest
What’s really holding you back? Can you keep going on and on and claiming its fear? Could it be the old excuse that you are a perfectionist? Or is it that you are uncertain or unskilled? What if the real issue is that you’re simply uncomfortable with change? Or that you are simply trapped into a rhythm of how much action you are willing to take each day? More often than not, what prevents people from starting a dream is lack of sustained motivation and discipline. Because armed with those things you can overcome fear, right? So, begin with honesty about what’s preventing you from starting your dream and realize that the only way through it is to begin.
When times are difficult, it’s easy to feel we’ve lost all personal power. So, a simple way to insert agency and progress in our lives is to set three small goals every day and work to achieve them. These can be as simple as taking a shower, going for a walk, or calling a friend. It’s not about taking over the world. It’s about directing just a tiny bit of our day until we can find our footing again.
2. Keep Perspective
Draw some strength from the truth that there have been positive, good, happy times in life and that those moments and memories can return and are with you. And remember that part of keeping perspective is realizing you are not on an island alone – there are people out there who can help you through this. Finally, remember, you are the miracle – the fact that you can choose your attention and breath and choices each day is a profound blessing. Not all is lost or negative – there is always hope and you can make new choices.
If we want to learn faster, we have to approach learning differently. Here are five ideas to learn faster:
1. Connect Your Life Goals with What You Want to Learn
If you don’t know what your goals are or dream life should look like, you don’t know WHAT to learn and, worse, you won’t be COMMITTED to truly learning it. Advanced learning requires clear focus and a definitive WHY for learning – without these you won’t stay disciplined enough to learn anything with real depth.
If you want to have a great relationship – a great marriage, a great love – then your intention must be greatness; you must seek to personally be great in that relationship, to make the other person feel great, and to build a great life together.
Here’s three steps to being great in relationships, to amplifying the love for you and your partner:
1. Give More ATTENTION to Those You Love
If you’re going to improve any relationship, all of the improvement will come from a greater degree of attention and presence gifted to the person you care for in the moment.
