I believe we have three great enemies that prevent us from advancing our lives, from actualizing our potential, from living our dreams.
1. The first great enemy of our lives is Doubt
We’re doubtful because the germ of fear spread in our body because somebody planted it there one time or we cultivated it with our own thoughts.
At some point, maturity and consciousness says, if doubt has been plaguing you let’s have a look at it, and let’s realize how you banish it. Every single thing that we know from spirituality, from philosophy, from the great writers and great texts from human culture has all revealed one thing: Where there is doubt, grant me faith.
We have to have faith and faith does not mean the absence of doubt. In fact, the very definition of faith realizes that doubt is still there. You can’t have faith unless there’s some part of you that says, “I’m going to go anyway despite the doubt.”
If you’re doubting yourself, the only way through is to give yourself more faith and take more action. With more faith and more action comes more competence. With more competence comes more confidence. In psychology they call it the competence-confidence loop. The more you learn and try the more you master and develop.
2. The second great enemy of our lives is Delay
Most people awake with a dream in their mind but they let that dream die in the daylight. They have the dream at night and it dies in the day because they take no action towards it, because they’re fooling themselves that maybe someday I’ll get to that.
No one wants to be the person who ends up at the end of their life regretful, because they never began what they wanted to.
What are you waiting for? What have you been delaying for way too long that you know you need to get to?
Maybe today is the day to put your feet on the ground and say, “I’m going to begin this.” The only way through delay is action.
3. The third great enemy of our lives is Division
We feel divided. We feel different from other people. We feel like there’s this great divide between us. There’s this chasm between us and other human beings, and you can recognize this person all the time who’s really having challenges in their life, who really are struggling from division because they say the same thing. They say, “Well, they can’t understand me.” Or they spew hate and their hate or their belief that others can’t understand them accomplishes the same thing. It protects them and keeps them from connecting with other people.
The only way to get over the divisiveness between us and another person is to go be kind, to go say something, to explicit, to ask, to put ourselves into play with other human beings again in ways that we build magnificent relationships. That we build real connections that are meaningful and deep again.
How to Overcome Doubt, Delay, and Division
All these things — doubt, delay, and division — can be overcome we just have to learn to recognize them. The first step is always awareness.
- What have you been doubting in your life that’s preventing you from moving ahead?
- What have you been delaying in your life that’s preventing you from moving ahead?
- How have you been perceiving other people that have been preventing you from developing relationships and moving ahead?
When you start to see these things you can break through. But it’s only within that deep desire within yourself to have faith, to take action, to become your highest self and overcome the very things that are limiting you. That’s what makes us great. That’s the great shine of becoming a mature, conscious human being.
So I say, why not make this day the day that we re-design our lives so that doubt, delay, and division are handled by faith, action, and love.
* Source: Brendon Burchard – 3 Great Enemies of Growth & Happiness