I believe that one of the great marks of personal power and spiritual power is the ability to apologize and to forgive.
People have been thinking about apology and forgiveness in the wrong ways for so long.
Apologize
When we apologize we don’t have to give away our power.
It’s coming from a place of real power that allows us to apologize, because when we’re coming from a place of real, raw, emotional, and spiritual power, we can apologize because there’s no ego attached to it.
When someone feels bad around me, I immediately apologize, because I know apology has nothing to do with me. It has to do with their ability and their need to release their bitterness. They’re upset, and if all the need is a simple switch of an apology to release that upset-ness in their life, I want to let them switch that thing all day long.
It’s not about you. It’s about a need they have psychologically to release from something and the apology is the lever for that release.
Forgive
Forgiveness has nothing to do with you, just like apology might not have anything to do with you. It’s not about ego.
Forgiveness has to do with a decision that you’re just going to forgive the weight that you’re carrying around about something that impacted you.
It is a spiritual power in just dropping weight of negativity, of negative emotion and energy around you.
Let go of the ego and just forgive somebody, not to approve of them, not to justify, not to rationalize. Just do it for your own mental and spiritual sanity, health and vibrancy. Just let it go. You need nothing more.
I’m not going to carry your stuff anymore. I forgive the situation. I forgive you, only for my own mental sanity. That’s personal power.
That’s How You Feel Free in Life Again
From apologizing and allowing forgiveness into your life, you feel free again, and when you feel free again, now life is unbounded. It’s beautiful. The colors return to the sky. The whistle comes back to the work. Any metaphor you need to justify doing this, find it and let it go today.
Apologize when you need to.
Let it go every time, and suddenly you’ll find yourself fully charged.
* Source: Brendon Burchard – How to Say, “I’m Sorry.”